Reduce Your Mental Load and Enjoy Great Sex | Dr. Morgan Cutlip

Do you ever feel the weight of an invisible to-do list burdening your relationship? In this illuminating episode, Gabe and I welcome Dr. Morgan Cutlip—psychologist and author of A Better How: Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex.

Dr. Cutlip breaks down the mental load—that seemingly endless list of tasks, responsibilities, and emotional calculations we carry—and how it affects intimacy and connection in marriage.

She unpacks the three domains of the mental load: physical, mental, and emotional labor—and why women typically carry a disproportionate share in home and family life. We dive into practical ways couples can better understand each other's needs around sex and connection, including the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire.

This conversation offers real, actionable steps: scheduling intimacy, making margin for emotional connection, and practicing appreciation. These shifts can truly transform your relationship from one marked by resentment to one overflowing with joy.

Whether you’re feeling stuck or simply want to deepen your connection, we pray this episode equips you to fight for your marriage by tackling the mental load together. As Gabe and I share from our own journey, we hope you're reminded—healing and growth are possible when we choose to see and understand each other more deeply.