Sex and Connection – Beyond Just the Bedroom

Let’s talk about sex!

This week, Gabe and I are breaking the silence around the intimate side of marriage that so many couples struggle to discuss. We share how growing up with "just don't do it" messages left us confused on our wedding day, and how easy it is to fall into viewing sex as either a transaction or obligation rather than the beautiful connection God designed.

I share, "sex becomes loaded with pressure until it feels more comfortable to just avoid it completely." Gabe admits his own misconceptions: "I thought if I did the dishes, it would make you want to have sex with me—like you'd want to pay me back."

These candid admissions make way for practical wisdom about the differences in how men and women approach intimacy, and why weekly connection correlates with the happiest marriages.

This judgment-free conversation gives couples permission to start talking about expectations, barriers, and how to rediscover sex as something that should be amazing rather than a duty to endure.