Building a Marriage That Lasts: Practical Rhythms for Lifelong Connection

Are you intentionally building your marriage, or just letting it happen? In this insightful episode, Gabe and I share the practical rhythms and intentional habits that have helped them cultivate a thriving 28-year marriage. As we near the conclusion of their seven-week series on "The Fight for Us," we reflect on the importance of proactively creating structure rather than simply letting marriage unfold on its own.

Drawing from our own experience of marriage transformation after an intensive retreat in year 19, Gabe and I emphasize how establishing regular rhythms—daily, weekly, and annual—creates the foundation for a lasting relationship. From sharing calendars and locations to scheduling 15-minute daily connection times and regular date nights, these practical disciplines help couples stay intentionally connected through every season of life. We also announce their upcoming marriage journal project, "The Journal for Us: 10 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have," designed to guide couples through essential discussions about money, sex, career, calling, and more.

Throughout the episode, Gabe and I offer encouragement to listeners at every stage of marriage—whether newly wed or decades in—reminding them that the fight for a thriving marriage is worth it not only for ourselves but for our children, grandchildren, and legacy. With vulnerability and wisdom, we emphasize that these practices didn't come naturally in their early years of marriage but have become the essential scaffolding that allows their relationship to continue growing and flourishing.