The #1 Communication Mistake Couples Make

Ever feel like you and your spouse are stuck in the same argument on repeat? I’ve been there more times than I can count. In this episode, Gabe and I open up about the communication pitfalls that kept us in painful cycles—and the small but powerful shifts that helped us break free.

We talk about how phrases like “you always” or “you never” can trigger defensiveness in a split second, and how sometimes it’s not what we say, but how we say it that causes the most damage.

From Gabe’s straight-to-the-point tone to my (sometimes intense!) emotional processing, we share the real moments in our marriage where things unraveled—and how choosing curiosity over judgment helped us find our way back to each other.

We also dive into one of the biggest disconnects: why men rush to fix what women often just want to express—and how simple words of affirmation can be healing for both partners.

One of the most practical takeaways? Try noticing and naming something you appreciate about your spouse this week. It may seem small, but it creates space for connection—and that’s where healing begins.